I Forgive You…NOT!

It takes a big person to be able to fully forgive someone for a wrong-doing. Especially if that person is a significant other. And especially if that wrong-doing was a lie or a cheat. Accepting it and moving on is a major deal and not a lot of people are able to do this. Besides that, forgiving is not forgetting so there is always the memory of the wrong-doing there. So, even if you say you can move on, chances are that you won’t because no matter what, that thought will always be there.

Is it worth it to try to salvage a relationship when one or the other person in the relationship has lied or cheated? Think about it in terms of trust and love. Can you love a liar? Can you love someone who has cheated on you knowing that you loved them? Can you trust someone who has lied to your face? Could you move on and still trust that person and want to build a life with that person? Could you guarantee that they wanted the same things with you?

It’s a whole lot to think about and to take it. Of course, there are relationships that have worked themselves out in this predicament, and then there are the other ones that haven’t and they ended in hatred. Then there are the relationships that have stayed together, but no trust or love is there. Which one is worse?

Let me know your thoughts!

3 Comments

  1. Hi! I’m stopping by for ICLW week to leave you a hug. I always wanted to learn more about same gender parenting so I’m glad I found your blog! Keep up the good work!

    Love, Fran

    ICLW #131

  2. Well, it depends on whether you believe in unconditional love in a romantic relationship. I certainly believe that there are always conditions, some of the you know about and some of them, you don’t. Trust has to be earned and it can be worth it to try. No one is perfect. I say everyone should have at least ONE do over. After that, it’s time to move on.

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