Recently, I made the decision to stop chewing my fingernails. Sounds easy, but it’s not. This past week has actually been one of the hardest weeks of my life. Each time my fingers go to my mouth I make the effort to tell myself NO! Today has been a very difficult one, my nerves got the best of me and I relapsed. This venture is a lot more difficult that I thought it would be.
The reason I am telling you this is because we all have our habits that affect our daily lives. Not only does it affect our lives, but it affects our partner’s life as well. How does chewing nails affect my partner, you ask? Well, let’s say I just chewed my nails off and they are jagged and sharp and she asks me to scratch her back, and I do it, and scratch her back to where there are welts and bloody scratch marks where her skin used to be (okay I am exaggerating a bit about the bloody scratch marks, but it does hurt).
Regardless of what your habit is, stop and think about how it affects your life and your partner’s life. When you’re in a relationship it’s not all about you. Just think about that! And remember the first step is admitting it, even when the habit is small and may seem inadequate.