Marty McFly: Wait a minute, Doc, are you trying to tell me that my mother has got the hots for me?
Dr. Emmett Brown: Precisely.
Marty McFly: Whoa, this is heavy.
Dr. Emmett Brown: There’s that word again; “heavy”. Why are things so heavy in the future? Is there a problem with the earth’s gravitational pull?
Are you able to keep the past in the past? Do you get the urge to just want to argue about your girlfriend’s past? Does your girl do it to you? How do you feel after that type of argument? Do you think it is healthy to argue about one’s past? Do you dig to find stuff out about your girl’s past just to throw it in her face? Does she do it to you?
In my opinion, it is not healthy or fun to argue about the past. I get it that some people get bouts of jealousy but why not leave it alone? Is it that hard to bite your tongue? You know where it’s headed, so why not veer off that path? Is it so hard to just let things go? If the past has nothing to do with you then I say leave it be. However, if it is something that is always brought up or right in your face (on purpose) then you have cause to be upset. Nobody wants to be compared to somebody’s horrible (or great) past, and nobody wants to hear about it either. I say leave the past in the past, it will be better that way. No petty arguments could arise from it if it’s not brought up. Does this make sense?
Some jealousy is normal, but too much can tear a relationship apart. I understand that things happen and people or things pop up from the past that shouldn’t but it does happen. It is up to you to be the bigger person and realize that your girl is with you and you are with your girl. It is not something that should be held against your partner unless they are bringing it to yours and hers present. Then it is time to reevaluate. Then it is time to end the arguments and possibly the relationship. There’s no need to stay in something that makes you unhappy and that isn’t all your girlfriend wants. If she was happier with her past then she needs to not be with you and the same goes for you.
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