When is it okay to vent to your partner? Is it okay to just go off on a tangent with her and then after her feelings are hurt inform her that you were just venting or bitching? When is this okay or is it okay? I have been doing a lot of thinking about verbal abuse and where the line is drawn. Is venting verbal abuse? Is it verbal abuse if you’re not aware that your girlfriend is venting? Is there a proper way to vent?
I am guilty of venting to my partner too, but I try to let her know that I am ticked off or that I need to vent and just go to town. I have on occasion not said anything and just started my BF (bitch fit: ode to White Chicks) does this make me an abuser? What is the line with venting or just getting negativity off of your chest? How can you tell the difference between the two?
Should the context of venting be specific? I know when I am mad, not necessarily at my girl but in general I just start talking crap, with no particular direction for the BF. Of course, you have to expect your girlfriend to get upset if she is unaware of what is happening but how do you smooth it over? Flowers? Whispers of sweet nothings? Apologies?